A Woman's Worth

Unfortunately, women being mistreated by the men in their lives is all around me.

At this point, I am single by choice, not even dating, going on 2 years now...and the prospect of getting back on the dating scene is daunting.

When I look around at those in relationships, the number of healthy unions are few and far between.

So why are so many of us in toxic relationships...with men that are not good for us, have nothing to offer, and treat us as if we are less than?

I think part of the problem is that we as women are naturally nurturing beings, looking to take care of and please someone else...Maternal instincts extend far beyond our children. This puts us in a position in which we sacrifice our own needs and happiness for the sake of someone else (your child - maybe worth it; a man - NEVER).

Let's also not forget the societal pressures that women face to be married and have children by a certain age. Numerous friends and family members have jokingly called me an old maid more times than enough.

And then there's just those women who look for validation from a man. They never take the time to get to know themselves and what makes them happy.

I have been in an unhealthy relationship myself so I am speaking from experience. The stress and heartbreak of it is something I vow to not experience again. Since my daughter was born 2 years ago and her father and I split up, I have taken this time to really come to understand who I am, what I need to be happy, and truly value my worth.

Sounds simple enough but many of us are lost when it comes to these things. And in my case, I know that I have an example to set for my daughter. She will not grow up seeing me disrespected and demeaned by men only to fall into the same pattern.

We as women are strong and beautiful and need to be treated as such. We have an unending amount of love to give - to the RIGHT one and should never settle for anything less.